Using the web and apps

There are numerous sites for guys into all sorts of sex and many guys have a profile on at least one of them. Meeting guys for sex using websites or apps, like Gaydar and Grindr, is what a lot of people do. Just remember to talk, listen, think… be clear about what you want and what your boundaries are and listen to the other guy’s.

Remember, people can lie! They may not be who they say they are, and you won’t know for sure until you meet them. Chat as much as you can to someone before meeting – find out as much as you can. If they are reluctant to give any info, think carefully about meeting. Trust your instincts if something doesn’t feel right and talk to someone if things go wrong or you’re not sure.

Antidote give the following advice; “Managing your profiles on sex-networking sites is another way to set some boundaries. Be clear and confident about what you’re into, what you’re NOT into… don’t be afraid to be vulnerable in your profile; too many profiles boast of sexual prowess, being “sorted” and “not into fats or fems”… we can sometimes be intimidated by online hooking-up, and frightened to say we want intimacy, or to get to know someone over a coffee before jumping in the sack. And if you’re trying to re-discover sober sex, or give drugs a break, be clear about this in your profile on in communication; many of our clients report of arranging an encounter, and someone arrives under the influence or even offering drugs. So be boundaried and clear in your profile and in your communication. “

www.londonfriend.org.uk/antidote